This was certainly a week of all the struggles.
An emotional roller coaster.
Lot’s of ups and downs.
It was like, everything that could go wrong, or upset me, did.
I took some time to figure out what was bothering me and then flipped the situation to make it better once I realized how it was affecting me. I don’t like when outside situations have control over my mood for the day, how I feel, and my attitude. Putting things into perspective helps me to figure out why I’m feeling a certain way, so that rather than let it continue to bother me, I can fix and move on from it.
I feel like inner struggles go hand in hand with vulnerability. No one likes feeling vulnerable, so instead we back off, shy away and end up very closed off. Vulnerability is like that miserable feeling you get in the pit of your stomach that won’t go away until something changes – for the better. We have two choices; face it and deal with it or run away from it and shut down.
Well, no chance I’m going with the latter, because I prefer to deal with my emotions rather than to hide behind them – it’s just how I function. Typically, I deal with them by
drinking all the wine, getting advice from my girlfriends and talking it out to see how I can make things better.
Yesterday, I read this quote in an elitedaily article and found it so right on to what I was going through earlier in the week, before I decided to face my struggles and make them better.
Our fear of vulnerability seems to stem from our fear of rejection and authenticity. Because of this fear, we spend more time hiding the truth than speaking it.
But my question is, why hide it? If you consider most inner struggles, you feel better once they’re out in the open and you can express them, right?
Why not just be upfront? Let it out. If there are negative effects of being open, honest and expressing yourself, then there’s a good chance you shouldn’t be involved with who or whatever isn’t accepting to your openness.
If you have something to say, say it.
If you want something, go after it.
If you can’t make a decision, figure out where your heart is leading you and always listen to your gut!
If someone doesn’t make an effort for you, don’t make an effort for them – sometimes it’s just not worth it.
If something upsets you, fix it.
If you have regrets, forget about them – you can’t go back there anyway.
If you’re holding on to the past, let it go. If nothings has come of it yet, nothing probably will.
You’ll be amazed at the changes you’ll see by choosing to be open and upfront in situations. There’s really no use in fearing the chances we can take in life.
So, fuck it. Go live a little!